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December 6

Romance and recovery


“Relationships can be a terribly painful area.”
Basic Text, p. 82
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Love is like an elixir for some of us. The excitement of a new lover, the intrigue of exploring intimacy, the sense of release we get from allowing ourselves to become vulnerable—these are all powerful emotions. But we can’t forget that we have only a daily reprieve from our addiction. Holding onto this daily reprieve must be the top priority in any recovering addict’s life.
We can become too involved in our relationship. We can neglect old friends and our sponsor in the process. Then, when things get difficult, we often feel that we can no longer reach out to those who helped us prior to our romantic involvement. This belief can lay the groundwork for a relapse. By consistently working our program and attending meetings, we ensure that we have a network of recovery, even when we’re deep in a romance.
Our desire to be romantically involved is natural. But we mustn’t forget that, without our program, even the healthiest relationship will not guard us against the strength of our addiction.
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Just for today: In my desire for romance, I will not ignore my recovery.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Relationships can be a terribly painful area.”
Love is like an elixir for some of us. The excitement of a new lover, the intrigue of exploring intimacy, the sense of release we get from allowing ourselves to become vulnerable—these are all powerful emotions. But we can’t forget that we have only a daily reprieve from our addiction.But we mustn’t forget that, without our program, even the healthiest relationship will not guard us against the strength of our addiction.
Just for the God`s sake. Are u still just copying and pasting the inspirational thoughts JUust For today?!

na 31 Okt 2008, 09:48
Za sada iz nekih razloga zalim da sacuvam moju anonimnost na ovom forumu.

Are U bilingual?!

Moze lako da bude da sam nesto prevideo ili da nisam bas najbolje razumeo, i zato bih ti bio vrlo zahvalan ako me neko uputi na moje greske. . Za mene je to jedan od nacina da radim na sebi

Bye meki..Mislim by meki.
Write confession in order that all of us should know your mistakes. we are all humans. Pitty u weren`t in Belgrade. The message. "Don`t fuck the newcomers" was spreaded!
Kod nas nista nije slucajno. fuck-ne mora da znaci bukvalno fakati, al za neke bukvealiste mozda i da. Znaci sprdati se, manipulistai, zajebavati, igrati se se, tjerati ljude i iz licnih razloga sa sastanaka iz zivota u programu.
Don`t take at as an insoult, u are covered up-u are bilingual foolstop

December 7

Surviving our emotions

“We use the tools available to us and develop the ability to survive our emotions.”
Basic Text, p. 31
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“Survive my emotions?” some of us say. “You’ve got to be kidding!” When we were using, we never gave ourselves the chance to learn how to survive them. You don’t survive your feelings, we thought—you drug them. The problem was, that “cure” for our unsurvivable emotions was killing us. That’s when we came to Narcotics Anonymous, started working the Twelve Steps and, as a result, began to mature emotionally.
Many of us found emotional relief right from the start. We were tired of pretending that our addiction and our lives were under control; it actually felt good to finally admit they weren’t. After sharing our inventory with our sponsor, we began to feel like we didn’t have to deny who we were or what we felt in order to be accepted. When we’d finished making our amends, we knew we didn’t have to suffer with guilt; we could own up to it and it wouldn’t kill us. The more we worked the NA program, the better we felt about living life as it came to us.
The program works today as well as it ever did. By taking stock of our day, getting honest about our part in it, and surrendering to reality, we can survive the feelings life throws our way. By using the tools available to us, we’ve developed the ability to survive our emotions.
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Just for today: I will not deny my feelings. I will practice honesty and surrender to life as it is. I will use the tools of this program to survive my emotions.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Bas se dobro namestio danasnji meditaciono odsecak. Lepo pise kako i sta.

Sto se tice neke moje ispovesti na ovom forumu, licno mislim da ovo nije mesto za tako nesto. Ovo vise ispada kao neki trac forum gde neki ljudi nisu skroz dobronamerni, tako da se necu ukljucivati i praviti nastavke spanskih sapunica. Na moju srecu imam bas dobrog sponzora i dosta jako dobrih prijatelja u dugotrajnom i kvalitetnom oporavku. To je mesto gde sam potpuno iskren i gde ucim o sebi i na svojim greskama.

Hej, niko se nije naucen rodio, specijalno ne narkoman sa dvo-decenijskim stazom aktivnog drogiranja. Prestanak uzimanja svih psihoaktivnih supstanici je samo jedan korak ka oporavku. Narkomansko ponasenje ostaje dugo u coveku i.........

Tako da svima zelim sve bas ono najbolje,

ps. sledeca konvencija je krajem Maja meseca u Trogiru. Tako ljudi, pocnite vec da se spremate. Kao sto mozete da vidite na nasim konvencijama ima bas svega i moze da bude vrlo zanimljivo. + mi ostajemo cisti i radimo na sebi.

December 8

Calling a defect a defect

“When we see how our defects exist in our lives and accept them, we can let go of them and get on with our new life.”
Basic Text, p. 35
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Sometimes our readiness to have our character defects removed depends on what we call them. If misnaming our defects makes them seem less “defective,” we may be unable to see the damage they cause. And if they seem to be causing no harm, why would we ever ask our Higher Power to remove them from our lives?
Take “people pleasing,” for example. Doesn’t really sound all that bad, does it? It just means we’re nice to people, right? Not quite. To put it bluntly, it means we’re dishonest and manipulative. We lie about our feelings, our beliefs, and our needs, trying to soothe others into compliance with our wishes.
Or perhaps we think we’re “easygoing.” But does “easygoing” mean we ignore our housework, avoid confrontations, and stay put in a comfortable rut? Then a better name for it would be “laziness,” or “procrastination,” or “fear.”
Many of us have trouble identifying our character defects. If this is the case for us, we can talk with our sponsor or our NA friends. We clearly and honestly describe our behavior to them and ask for their help in identifying our defects. As time passes, we’ll become progressively better able to identify our own character defects, calling them by their true names.
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Just for today: I will call my defects by their true names. If I have trouble doing this, I will ask my sponsor for help.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

December 9

Listening


“This ability to listen is a gift and grows as we grow spiritually. Life takes on a new meaning when we open ourselves to this gift.”
Basic Text, p. 107
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Have you ever watched two small children carry on a conversation? One will be talking about purple dragons while the other carries on about the discomfort caused by having sand in one’s shoes. We sometimes encounter the same communication problems as we learn to listen to others. We may struggle through meetings, trying desperately to hear the person sharing while our minds are busy planning what we will say when it’s our turn to speak. In conversation, we may suddenly realize that our answers have nothing to do with the questions we’re being asked. They are, instead, speeches prepared while in the grip of our self-obsession.
Learning how to listen—really listen—is a difficult task, but one that’s not beyond our reach. We might begin by acknowledging in our replies what our conversational partner is saying. We might ask if there is anything we can do to help when someone expresses a problem. With a little practice, we can find greater freedom from self-obsession and closer contact with the people in our lives.
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Just for today: I will quiet my own thoughts and listen to what someone else is saying.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

December 10

Winners


“I started to imitate some of the things the winners were doing. I got caught up in NA. I felt good...”
Basic Text, p. 153
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We often hear it said in meetings that we should “stick with the winners.” Who are the winners in Narcotics Anonymous? Winners are easily identified. They work an active program of recovery, living in the solution and staying out of the problem. Winners are always ready to reach their hands out to the newcomer. They have sponsors and work with those sponsors. Winners stay clean, just for today.
Winners are recovering addicts who keep a positive frame of mind. They may be going through troubled times, but they still attend meetings and share openly about it. Winners know in their hearts that, with the help of a Higher Power, nothing will come along that is too much to handle.
Winners strive for unity in their service efforts. Winners practice putting “principles before personalities.” Winners remember the principle of anonymity, doing the principled action no matter who is involved.
Winners keep a sense of humor. Winners have the ability to laugh at themselves. And when winners laugh, they laugh with you, not at you.
Who are the winners in Narcotics Anonymous? Any one of us can be considered a winner. All of us exhibit some of the traits of the winner; sometimes we come very close to the ideal, sometimes we don’t. If we are clean today and working our program to the best of our ability, we are winners!
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Just for today: I will strive to fulfill my ideals. I will be a winner.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

December 11

Misery is optional


“No one is forcing us to give up our misery.”
Basic Text, p. 29
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It’s funny to remember how reluctant we once were to surrender to recovery. We seemed to think we had wonderful, fulfilling lives as using addicts and that giving up our drugs would be worse than serving a life sentence at hard labor. In reality, the opposite was true: Our lives were miserable, but we were afraid to trade that familiar misery for the uncertainties of recovery.
It’s possible to be miserable in recovery, too, though it’s not necessary. No one will force us to work the steps, go to meetings, or work with a sponsor. There is no NA militia that will force us to do the things that will free us from pain. But we do have a choice. We’ve already chosen to give up the misery of active addiction for the sanity of recovery. Now, if we’re ready to exchange today’s misery for even greater peace, we have a means to do just that—if we really want to.
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Just for today: I don’t have to be miserable unless I really want to be. Today, I will trade in my misery for the benefits of recovery.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

December 12

Fear of change


“By working the steps, we come to accept a Higher Power’s will.... We lose our fear of the unknown. We are set free.”
Basic Text, p. 16
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Life is a series of changes, both large and small. Although we may know and accept this fact intellectually, chances are that our initial emotional reaction to change is fear. For some reason, we assume that each and every change is going to hurt, causing us to be miserable.
If we look back on the changes that have happened in our lives, we’ll find that most of them have been for the best. We were probably very frightened at the prospect of life without drugs, yet it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Perhaps we’ve lost a job that we thought we’d die without, but later on we found greater challenge and personal fulfillment in a new career. As we venture forth in our recovery, we’re likely to experience more changes. We will outgrow old situations and become ready for new ones.
With all sorts of changes taking place, it’s only natural to grab hold of something, anything familiar and try to hold on. Solace can be found in a Power greater than ourselves. The more we allow changes to happen at the direction of our Higher Power, the more we’ll trust that those changes are for the best. Faith will replace fear, and we’ll know in our hearts that all will be well.
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Just for today: When I am afraid of a change in my life, I will take comfort from knowing that God’s will for me is good.

Copyright © 1991-2008 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved