Fantasies have to be unrealistic.
Because the moment, the second
that you get what you seek...
you don't,
you can't want it anymore.
In order to continue to exist...
desire must have its objects
perpetually absent.
It's not the "it" that you want,
it's the fantasy of "it. "
Desire supports crazy fantasies
This is what Pascal means when he
says that we are only truly happy...
when daydreaming
about future happiness.
It came today.
Or why we say,
"The hunt is sweeter than the kill. "
Or, "Be careful what you wish for. "
Not because you'll get it...
because you're doomed
not to want it once you do.
So the lesson of Lacan is:
Living by your wants
will never make you happy.
What it means to be fully human...
is to strive to live
by ideas and ideals.
Not to measure your life...
by what you've attained
in terms of your desires...
but those moments of integrity,
compassion, rationality...
even self-sacrifice.
Because in the end... the only way we can measure
the significance of our own lives..
is by valuing the lives of others.
.... Super monolog...
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